Can We Really Save Relationships?
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wanted to write today about relationship programs that promote the ability of helping people get back with their girl or boy friends. Suddenly it’s all around and I wonder some times if it’s in our water. What is it that makes people want to change things about their partner. We me, we go out and get to know each other. Sometimes the decision is to goes forward and sometimes the decision is to stay friends but continue to look for Mr or Miss right further on down the road.
I want to discuss the folks that decide to commit to each other and form a partnership. I know in my case I had no intentions on changing anything about my lady as I was happy just the way she was. But…apparently this was not the case in her mind. It was very slow and almost non-existent although it was there. It started with her buying me some shirts and asking me to wear them, even though she didn’t ask me if I liked them or not. Being the nice guy that I am and as it was early in the relationship, I did what any guy would do…I wore them. That, as it turned out, was probably the worst thing I could have done forus both. I feel that I should have politely explained that her choice of clothing wear was not my taste and it would be much better for our relationship, if she would have discussed it with me first. That is what I should have done, but all I could see was our relationship was coming to an end. But by not letting her know from the beginning, I was just giving her permission to start changing me into what she wanted.
What is it about the two sexes that we miss when we meet that has us trying to change someone shortly after we start dating and especially when we move in together. I think we miss out on some truly happy times when we spend energy trying to change someone. This turned out to be the case 20 years later. (I am sure there was some other things in her mind) It has been ten years since we broke up and five years since we divorced. I know that I will never find my way back to her as she was the one who requested the separation and divorce, but I have to say that not a day goes by when I sit and wonder what and where we would be now if we had tried to work through out problems and kwept our relationship together. I really hope that people will add a comment to this post and give me your feed back.
If you are in a relationship or have been and your partner is trying to change you or maybe you are trying to change them. Let us know and give your point of view. I hope everyone`s relationship can stay together, but I know this is impossible. Looking forward to your thoughts folks…..!
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